In looking at today’s topic for Forgiveness Sunday, I chose to look at an area where people disagree on forgiveness: To Forget or To Forget Not. There are times to forget and times to not forget. For example, if someone keeps doing the same thing over and over, then you need to remember the person is doing it. You still forgive them, but at some point, you have to decide if the relationship is worth keeping. Unfortunately, sometimes you have to end the relationship. There may be times where that’s not an option for whatever reason. In those cases, you minimize the relationship and contact with the person. The big thing is not to dwell on the memory of why you are not forgetting.
I have ended relationships because the person kept repeating the same actions. I forgave them, but I chose to end the relationship as it was obvious they would keep doing the same actions as long as the relationship remained. In the long run, I am better off without the relationship. It’s not always easy to break off a relationship, but the question becomes why keep it going it if it’s causing you more problems than it’s worth? I use it as a last resort and rarely reach the point, but sometimes it’s about what best for me, not what’s best for them. On the instances, it happens I pray for guidance before making a decision. I know some people are going through issues which may lead them to acting out of character. In those cases, I would try to be more supportive during that time.
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