Over the years, I have known some very vindictive people. When I was very young and foolish, I was one of those people. As I became familiar with a Bible verse that I quoted in last week’s Forgiveness Sundays post, I realized it was not my place to get revenge:
I always think back to the Bible verse: “Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.” (King James Version Romans 12:19).
My solution when someone does me wrong is to pray for that person. It doesn’t matter what the wrong done was. In some cases, I know the person is having a bad day. In other cases, it’s the way they behave and nothing I can do, other than praying for them, will change that behavior. There may be cases where you forgive the person, and no longer associate with them.
In addition, some of the most vindictive people I have met or have read about are some of the most unforgiving. I know a writer who can’t let go of being vindictive. He includes the names of people who he thinks did him wrong in his books. I don’t know if everyone he includes did him wrong or not. With vindictiveness, it can often be a case of where a person thinks someone did them wrong when it was the other person didn’t think about it all being an issue.
There are times when I had someone ask me about something where they thought I was mad at them for some reason. Turns out my facial expression for thinking real hard looks like I am mad. I am not so if you ever meet me in person, that’s an FYI that I am thinking real hard about something and I am not mad at you.
Other Forgiveness Sundays posts: https://upsdownsfamilyhistory.wordpress.com/tag/Forgiveness-Sundays/