I see too many bloggers and vloggers who argue against forgiveness, to the point of preaching against forgiveness. I won’t link to their blogs or vlogs as I think they miss the point about forgiveness. Forgiveness isn’t about the other person, it’s about you. Sadly, some of these people are professionals in the mental health field.
A point missed tends to be the power you give to someone who you don’t forgive. Yes, you give them power by not forgiving them. You may not realize it. I forgive everyone who has done something to me that requires forgiveness. I don’t always tell them I have forgiven them as there are some who think that means I am giving them power to keep doing whatever they did. There are times when you need to end the relationship if someone keeps doing things to you that require forgiveness. I have cut ties with some individuals as they would keep doing things that crossed the line.
I belong to some social media groups that involve relationship issues, usually involving divorce, separation, and similar issues. There are plenty of times when some group members argue against forgiving people who wronged them. I make the point in those posts to point out how trying to get revenge has a bad habit of coming back to haunt the person who goes for revenge. Seen it happen too many times to those who went for revenge. Revenge generally doesn’t work out anywhere near as well as the person thought it would.
Other Forgiveness Sundays posts: https://upsdownsfamilyhistory.wordpress.com/tag/Forgiveness-Sundays/