Something to Ponder – You Can Only Control Your Emotions Unless You Unwisely Give that Power to Others – June 12, 2020

In addition to the title of this post, this also applies to you not being able to control other people’s emotions unless they unwisely give you the power to control their emotions. Personally, I don’t want that power as the potential for abuse is too great. That’s true no matter if you give that power to others or others give it to you. Do you really want to give others that kind of control over your emotions?

I have a friend who tries to guilt trip me. It doesn’t work for one reason. The only way you can let someone guilt trip you is to give them that power. I don’t give them that power. They have no problem using it on their spouse, children, family, and other friends. They can’t understand why it doesn’t work on me. I could explain why, but this friend would try to manipulate me into letting them have such power. At some point, this friend will find I am no longer a friend once I get tired enough of the manipulation attempts.

Any time another person tries to give me control of their emotions, I say no. I don’t say it out loud as they often don’t consciously realize that’s what they are doing. I frequently notice people subconsciously think that taking control over other people is a good way to help someone out. I don’t know your situation fully and you don’t know my situation fully so any suggestions or attempt to control may backfire on the person who wants the advice or gives up control.

I used to be with someone who loved to ask my advice. If she took my advice, her go-to response was it was my fault for giving her advice and she had no problem blaming me for giving the advice. End result, I stopped giving her advice.

About ICT Genealogist

Originally from Gulfport, Mississippi. Live in Wichita, Kansas now. I suffer Bipolar I, ultra-ultra rapid cycling, mixed episodes. Blog on a variety of topics - genealogy, DNA, mental health, among others. Let's collaborateDealspotr.com
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6 Responses to Something to Ponder – You Can Only Control Your Emotions Unless You Unwisely Give that Power to Others – June 12, 2020

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