When I Ask How Are You Feeling, I Mean It – May 16, 2020

Unlike many people who ask “How are you feeling?,” I mean it. There are some people I don’t ask that question because they will spend 30 minutes to an hour or longer detailing every ache and pain they have. If it’s someone new to me, I usually go with Hello or Hi until I learn more about them.

For example, yesterday I called a friend for some assistance, but before I asked for his help, I asked how he was doing. He’s not normally a talker, but he let me know he had a TIA https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transient_ischemic_attack. He also updated me on his youngest granddaughter who is now having seizures. He spent a long time, for him, on the phone. I saw where his wife had posted on Facebook about him having a doctor’s appointment, but didn’t do an update. He’s not a big Facebook user. I meant to call him a few days ago, but time slipped away. He goes to bed early, around 8 P. M. He’s not family by blood, but I consider family under the friend category.

Anyway, after he finished telling me about those situations, I mentioned I had called to ask for some help, but didn’t want to bother him after what he told me. He told me to go ahead and tell him. I mentioned my bike had a flat. He said he would be over shortly to help me out. I really wanted to turn down his help, but I knew he’s stubborn so I graciously accepted his offer to help. I will be keeping him and his granddaughter in my prayers as they face different issues.

Usually when someone asks me “How are you doing?,” it depends on the person as to how I respond. For most people, it tends to be a generic question where they really don’t want a response. In those cases, I go with a short answer. For close friends or family, I may go with a more detailed answer. It also depends on how much of a hurry me or the other person is in for family or close friends. I have been late to getting somewhere because someone needed to talk.

A while back, I was at my nearby convenience store. I don’t keep cash on me as there are a fair number of people looking for money in the area. A guy approached me and asked for money. I didn’t have any, but it looked like he had other issues on his mind in addition to the money request. I spent 15 minutes listening to his story as it looked like he needed to be heard. I think it surprised him as most people would have brushed him aside without a second thought.

About Wichita Genealogist

Originally from Gulfport, Mississippi. Live in Wichita, Kansas now. I suffer Bipolar I, ultra-ultra rapid cycling, mixed episodes. Blog on a variety of topics - genealogy, DNA, mental health, among others. Let's collaborateDealspotr.com
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4 Responses to When I Ask How Are You Feeling, I Mean It – May 16, 2020

  1. Lovely gesture. I normally reply Good, and you.

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  2. SLIMJIM says:

    Wow glad you mean it when you ask people that question

    Liked by 1 person

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