I run across obituaries, like this one – https://vineyardgazette.com/obituaries/2020/03/11/carol-skydell-94 that are interesting. This one is somewhat humorous although it’s not as obvious to many and my suggestion to her family would be to split the ashes between both beaches. Here’s her Find-A-Grave memorial – https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/208112227/carol-skydell.
Longtime Vineyard resident, Carol Skydell died on March 4 in Camarillo, Calif, at age 94.
Long before she left the Vineyard for the last time, Carol gave instructions to her sons that when the time came, her ashes were to be spread along the Squibnocket shore at sunrise. On rare moments of indecisiveness, she would change that request to Menemsha at sunset. While this dilemma remained unresolved at the time of her death, Carol had already placed a granite marker at the foot of her husband Marvin’s grave in the Hebrew Cemetery. The marker bearing her name is engraved, “She’s at the Beach.”