As I planned for today’s Forgiveness Sundays post, I had planned on going a different route. I couldn’t find my Draft for the post I wanted to make. So I searched online for it as I thought there would be a lot of articles on the subject. What I found was too many articles where journalists took exception with the person’s act of forgiveness. I won’t comment on what the act of forgiveness was or who forgave whom. As my goal with these posts is to get people to realize that forgiveness isn’t about the other person, it’s about the person doing the forgiving.
I regularly read posts on blogs, Facebook, Twitter, etc. where someone forgave another person and they report it is like a burden has been lifted off their shoulders. I also routinely see people suffering from not forgiving although many of them would never admit it or shrug it off.
It’s up to you to forgive or not forgive, but I encourage you to consider the price you pay by not forgiving. I have seen people who feel they are giving up something by forgiving. In some cases, telling a person you forgive them will egg them on doing other things to make your life miserable, usually narcissists, psychopaths, or sociopaths as opposed to people who don’t fall in those categories.
I started Forgiveness Sundays after reading about a blogger who couldn’t forgive someone for what the person had done to their adult child – Forgiveness Sundays – March 17, 2019. I did not call out the blogger as I don’t think it would help.
I have seen numerous people forgive people for things that would be hard to forgive. Imagine you were in the concentration camps, like this woman I Survived The Holocaust Twin Experiments YouTube Video – Forgiveness Sundays August 18, 2019. She has taken a fair amount of heat from many who think she should not have forgiven the two people she forgave in the video.
Here’s what happen when you don’t forgive, and I mean truly forgive. It eats you up. I have seen people who haven’t forgiveness for often petty things. Over time, it affects their health, their joy, their relationships with close family and friends. Does forgiving mean you forget what was done? In some cases, yes. In other cases, no. Sometimes, it is important to remember what was done to make sure the person doesn’t keep doing it. I am reminded of the fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice shame on me saying.
Other Forgiveness Sundays posts: https://upsdownsfamilyhistory.wordpress.com/tag/Forgiveness-Sundays/