Why so glum? — NPE and Me – DNA Saturdays July 6, 2019

The day I found out about my NPE is one I don’t think I’ll ever forget. I had been looking around on several research sites, and found Genesis, I uploaded my raw data and waited to see the results. I had no idea I was taking the lid off Pandora’s Box. What’s with all the […]

via Why so glum? — NPE and Me.

I chose this as this week’s DNA Saturdays post as it’s a topic many find out about years or decades later.

For those not familiar with the term NPE, it is usually means either Non-Paternity (or Paternal) Event or Not the Parent(s) Expected. I usually go with the Not the Parent(s) Expected as it’s not always a case of Who’s the Daddy.

Other DNA Saturdays posts: https://upsdownsfamilyhistory.wordpress.com/tag/DNA-Saturdays/

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2 Responses to Why so glum? — NPE and Me – DNA Saturdays July 6, 2019

  1. PB says:

    I’m “baby Bird Lost” the author of the blog this post was from.

    Thank you very much for sharing my post. When I first found out about my parents ( it’s been confirmed by my biological mother that my father is her older brother) it was like having a bucket of ice dumped on me. I felt really alone and like I was some sort of an anomaly.

    It didn’t take that long to find out I’m not. I was really surprised there are so many people who have found themselves in situations like mine, and I have a feeling that, as DNA testing becomes more accessible, these numbers will keep going up. I really believe that there are some conversations about this that we, as a society, need to be having.

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    • You are welcome. I do DNA presentations that I title “Expect Surprises and It Depends.”

      One thing I start each presentation with there will be surprises. You may never know what they are and the surprise may show up after you die, but there are surprises. I mention that people may find one or both parents turn out not to be the parent(s). They may also find full and half-siblings they didn’t know about or maybe a full sibling turns out to be a half-sibling.

      A friend found a”biological” niece (his words, not mine) which he should have expected as one of his brothers went to medical school by selling to the local sperm bank. He was a frequent donor so my friend may find more nieces and nephews down the road who were a result of his brother’s activity. His brother’s promised anonymity was out the window. It has cut down on men willing to go that route.

      I am supposed to have three half-sisters; Mom’s first child, Dorothy Lorraine Strange (1951), from a previous husband either was stillborn or died the same day. It took me decades to find her as Mom left out key details and changed some facts. My Dad is supposed to have two daughters with someone other than Mom. My sister has met them many years ago. She won’t give me their names, but I keep hoping one or both will DNA test. I don’t know if they will be open to talking, but I consider them family even if they opt not to consider me family.

      It’s causing some stir in other countries as people who were promised anonymity or didn’t expect their secrets would ever see the light of day are finding out otherwise.

      There was a U. K. guy that after World War I was hired by a female doctor to impregnate wives who wanted children, but their soldier husbands couldn’t provide children due to injuries or trauma. The parents agreed not to tell the children. He was still fathering children as late as the early 1950s. He fathered over 480 children with these women, some of whom could still be alive.

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