I found this list many years ago – Cemetery Headstones: Rules & Regulations: http://www.everlifememorials.com/v/headstones/regulations-cemetery-headstones.htm and decided it was a good addition to Tombstone Tuesdays as many people don’t think about headstones or cemetery rules until they need to bury somebody. There are a number of sites that offer similar suggestions to the above link.
In case you haven’t dealt with ordering a headstone for yourself or a loved one, you should be aware that most cemeteries have rules and restrictions on what type of headstone you may place in the cemetery. Most memorial parks typically only allow flat headstones, for example.
While it’s only briefly mentioned in the above link, cemeteries generally charge an installation or setting fee. The price varies greatly between cemeteries and can be nominal ($50 USD) to are you serious (several thousand dollars plus) although most cemeteries tend to be in the couple hundred dollar range for installing the headstone. This fee can also apply if your loved one is a veteran and you are getting a military headstone from the government. Some cemeteries will waive or charge less for veterans, but many cemeteries charge their standard setting fee for veterans.
Religious or historical cemeteries may have additional restrictions on headstones. Don’t assume the restrictions are only limited to any signs in the cemetery as those signs tend to be fairly minimal in most cases.
If you plan on purchasing a headstone from somebody other than the cemetery, make sure you have a photo of the headstone as well as dimensions and other things mentioned in the link above. It can be a costly mistake if you don’t do this ahead of time. I saw a case where somebody spent over $10,000 USD for a headstone and the cemetery wouldn’t accept it because it didn’t meet the requirements they had given the next of kin.