You Can’t Control What Others Do with Your Genealogy Information.
In back to back posts in two (2) different Facebook groups, separate individuals were complaining about people adding their relatives incorrectly to trees managed by these other people.
You can’t control what other people do with your relatives. The only thing you can do is make your tree private on Ancestry and any other sites that allow a private tre. However, unless you make your tree private from the get-go, it will take a while before Ancestry makes your tree private in terms of updating where it’s showing up for other people to find.
With FamilySearch and WikiTree, it’s a one-tree philosophy so you can’t stop it on those sites.
In my family as in most families, there are enough multiple marriages, half-cousins, unknown births, etc. to make it a mess. Most people assume my half-aunt’s son is her second husband’s child. Most don’t know she had a first husband who is the biological father, but the son was adopted by the second husband. In this case, the half-aunt is from my maternal grandmother’s first marriage. Again, a marriage very few know about. Most people link my half-aunt to my grandmother’s second husband, my grandfather, including adding his surname as my half-aunt’s maiden name and assuming Jordan was her middle name. It’s not; it’s her maiden name.
If you want to improve the quality of your life and reduce stress, realize you have no control over what people do with your genealogical research if you make it publicly available.