My Anti-Hate Campaign… — A Mind Divided

…Or Training Myself to Grow Where I’m Planted. ◊ In the wilting swamp of summer, with depression and agitation kicking up a Pig Pen Black Cloud, I found myself hating Oklahoma. What I gained by moving seemed minuscule compared to what I’d lost. Thankfully, I’ve done this work long enough to know I was not […]

via My Anti-Hate Campaign… — A Mind Divided.

I can relate as I had a somewhat similar attitude when I first moved to Kansas. I have lived in Kansas three different times now, not counting a short visit on the way to South Dakota several decades before my first move here. The first time was for roughly three (3) years in northwest Kansas (Bird City, specifically – hence my reference to Love Antique Tractors? Bird City, Kansas Is the Place to Be July 26 – 28, 2018) for almost 2 1/2 of those years and south central Kansas (Severy) for the rest of this visit. I then moved back to Mississippi (Gulfport) for about 2 1/2 years before moving to Wichita for the first time. I spent almost six (6) years in Wichita before moving back to Mississippi again. I was in Gulfport for a bit over 3 1/2 years before moving back to Wichita a second time.

For those not familiar with northwest Kansas, it gets cold (at least for those of who grew up where the winter temperatures tended to be a lot warmer than -20 F (with wind chills of -50 F and -70 F, which happened in the my first Kansas winter). As a result, I got my first case of major frostbite which was later followed by two (2) more cases of it with six (6) moderate cases, and about twelve (12)  mild cases of it. Thankfully, my Wichita winters are usually a lot warmer than -20 F although we do get occasional below zero days in some winters.

I believe it’s important to learn to like where you are if you want to stay sane and mentally healthy. I applaud Sandy Sue for taking a positive approach. It took me a while to develop a positive approach to living in Bird City as this was years before the Internet was available in many homes.  I think it was shortly after the time I had been accustomed to expecting to live there for a long time that I moved to Severy. I got used to living there a lot faster as I also expected to live there for a long time. Will I stay in Wichita or move somewhere else? I don’t know. I do know that I need to grow where I’m planted either way.

You are where you are presently for a reason. The sooner you accept it, the better it will be for you. The choice is yours. Make the best of it and you will find yourself in a much better place than you might imagine.

Addit: In some cases, if you are having an issue with where you live, it may be a result of you not being where you are supposed to be.

About Wichita Genealogist

Originally from Gulfport, Mississippi. Live in Wichita, Kansas now. I suffer Bipolar I, ultra-ultra rapid cycling, mixed episodes. Blog on a variety of topics - genealogy, DNA, mental health, among others. Let's
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2 Responses to My Anti-Hate Campaign… — A Mind Divided

  1. Sandy Sue says:

    Thanks for the support. You have moved lots more than I have—I don’t know how anyone does that.

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    • ICT Graver says:

      Sandy Sue, you are welcome. As a child, my first four years of school were spent at four different schools, three of them in my hometown – granted a hurricane caused the one move out of state for a year, not counting a few later moves where we only stayed at a place for the summer. Over the years, I have lived in probably 20+ different places just in my hometown and Wichita, about 10 in each city, with easily another half-dozen plus in other towns. In one case, we moved across the street from my first grade house. In another, we moved back into my second grade house. For a list of schools I attended, you can check out


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